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Build your confidence: Stop Saying I am Not Good Enough!
Telling yourself you are not good enough undermines developing more powerful self-confidence.
Why do people say to themselves, "Am I not good enough? "
Many people grew up in families where parents were critical rather than a parent praising good work. These criticisms can stay with us for a lifetime. Sometimes, we enforce the idea we lack some ability by repeating it over and over into adulthood. Some people are immobilized by not feeling good enough. I have seen people unable to start a project for fear they will fail.
These judgments are internalized unconsciously, and parents can react harshly when they watch children doing something] similar. Parents must notice when they respond strongly to a child's behavior or school work.
If parents begin to ask themselves questions and introspectively turn inward, they may find out why. There is always a reason for solid reactions. Some of the questions parents may ask themselves are:
- Did my child's behavior warrant such a strong reaction?
- What was the problem of the child's behavior, schoolwork, etc?
- Why did I react so strongly? Did anyone get upset with me for the same thing?
